Posted on 03/31/2006 4:35:06 AM PST by Timeout
The romantic comedy "Failure to Launch," which opened as the No. 1 movie in the nation this month, has substantially exceeded pre-launch predictions, taking in more than $64 million in its first three weeks.
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...a young man who is affable, intelligent, good-looking -- and completely unmotivated. He's still living at home and seems to have no ambitions beyond playing video games, hanging out with his buddies (two young men who are also still living with their parents) and having sex.
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...According to the Census Bureau, fully one-third of young men ages 22 to 34 are still living at home with their parents -- a roughly 100 percent increase in the past 20 years. No such change has occurred with regard to young women. Why?
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...We've batted around lots of ideas. Maybe the problem has to do with the way the school curriculum has changed. Maybe it has to do with environmental toxins that affect boys differently than girls (not as crazy an idea as it sounds). Maybe it has to do with changes in the workforce, with fewer blue-collar jobs and more emphasis on the service industry. Maybe it's some combination of all of the above, or other factors we haven't yet identified.
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I'm perfectly serious. What do you want for your kids? Make it clear to them at every stage.
1)Maybe they like living at home
2) maybe they cant afford to move after all the rent on single flats is a hell of a lot more expensive now than it used to be and in a lot of places wages have not kept up with rent prices.
There could be lots of reasons apart from its all the feminists or governments fault.
I don't see how it's healthy to tell a young child you're going to kick them out. Not everyone is into this hardass lifestyle promoted here. It's just not healthy. I want the very best for my children. You just found something that works for you but don't think it works for EVERYONE.
I have a feeling that is the the biggest factor. Why do us men go out and become a doctor? So we can get more 'chicks'. Why do we go to the gym? So we can get more 'chicks'.. How many men honestly work out so that they are healthier?
He's serious.. and he is right. See my posts.
His OPINION is right. You share his opinion. I do not. That's your culture but it's just not been mine.
I know many "healthy", nearly 30 year old males living at home. That "healthy" way of living is nearly killing their parents. Our 22 year old got the message last year that this "healthy" relationship was putting us in an early grave. He is now on his own and we are all happier and "healthier" for it.
Guess what? You don't help your 20-something offspring by letting them sit around your house jobless (or have a job and blow all the money on partying, DVDs, and toys). It's not love, it's sick. The only hope for straightening them out is for them to KNOW that they're really out of the house and done their last hustle on mom & dad.
That looks like Annette Benning.
That's your experience.
Anyone following your post would be teaching a son to have a big fat chip on his shoulder, like yours. :-/
If you let your 14-year-old plan to live in the house until indefinitely, they will plan to live in the house indefinitely. On the other hand, if you tell them to plan to move out, go to college, and be independent from the time they are 18 (less college expenses, which are the parent's responsibility), this will be their plan.
So which is the better plan? Which one to you want for your kid?
Keep in mind, that things do not always go according to plan. If my kids screw up at 20 and need to move back in, I will treat them with love and compassion, and help them as necessary. But that is not their plan.
Parental indulgence and consumption are major contributing factors - kids today are reluctant to give up luxuries they view as entitlements just to gain independence. Especially if parents don't push the issue.
As someone stated earlier, it's no longer viewed as embarassing to be living in your parents basement at 35. As a society, we've come to accept a wide range of behaviors that would have been highly prejudicial 30 years ago.
Bet it was the mother who said that. Women think with their heart - men think with their head, that's why men are supposed to be the head of the household. That may sound old fashioned but that's the way it was meant to work.
Kids should have a life plan. I just don't understand the 'get them out when they're 18' thing though. Maybe it really is a cultural thing. My family at home has three generations living in the same big house. Grandmother is upstairs and son is downstairs with his family.
I'd have to disagree. I know my fair share of lazy dads. Good work ethic isn't an outcome of marriage alone, it is something that an individual develops over time through environment and family. When I was single, I worked my butt off - despite my fair share of "girlfriends".
...uh...move
I haven't lived at home since I was 13. Got a scholarship to a private naval prep military school and found out that being on my own was a lot better than living with mom and dad.
If you move anywhere there are good jobs while you're young you'll realize how big the world is and how many option we as Americans truly have.
The military does show you the world and provide access to great training programs and scholarship opportunities...... plus you get to shoot things and blow stuff up.
and that's really what boys like to do..hahahahahaha
Another ENORMOUS contributor - parents today make enormous sacrifices to ensure their children do not have to face adversity, or difficulty.
Shielding children from adversity is always counterproductive, as real life is almost nothing but dealing with, adapting to, and overcoming complex problems.
Parents seem to have forgotten that character is largely formed by dealing with problems and difficulties, and it cannot be purchased or inherited.
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