Posted on 03/31/2006 4:35:06 AM PST by Timeout
If you had said you could remember a time when middle class mothers routinely did not work out side the home, before the birth control pill and when marriage was promoted as a good thing that you should aspire to then you would have been correct and I would have simply agreed and moved on because it would have been true.
As it was your statement was the sort of exaggerated hyperbole that a historical revisionist engage in and I don't care for it from either side.
And I wonder what kind of control freak wants to deny my first person account of my own memory by citing meaningless historical generalities historical generalities? You don't really have any idea who I am or what I remember, but first person accounts are the primary sources of history.
I agree it probably has as much or more to do with rapidly aging 'boomer' parents whose biggest fear is growing old. They try to keep their children locked in an infantile dependency mode that somehow makes them feel like they're still in the Spring of their lives. This phenomenon has manifested itself in my wife's mid-40-year-old sister who's been after my wife and I to have more babies because it will somehow slow the advance of time. To be able to say she has an infant niece or nephew will turn back the clock, I guess.
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I made the assumption that all else was equal. A family would be the scale tipper. In the case you mentioned it does not sound like the married guy is anything like the single man and the choice was a no brainer.
I never overestimated how easy white collar folks have it. I fully understand that when one is starting out, one must work hard and to make a name for himself. Hard work is what makes America great, and I've worked several jobs at the same time when I had to. I just never understood why anyone would work himself to death for "more stuff". Time with family and friends cannot have a price tag attached, and nobody's tombstone mentions what a tireless and valuable employee they were. Making a career the number one focus in life is what brings broken homes, alcoholism, child delinquency, stress-related diseases, depression, exhaustion, and a multitude of other problems.
Out of curiosity, do you find this problematic? That is to ask if you find this improper in some way or another. Other than personal edification, the biggest mistake that I myself ever made was higher education. I'm just not cut out for medicine or to be a desk jockey.
Luckily, my wife was cut out for medicine, and after 26 years in her field, commands a very attractive salary. I stayed home with my kids for over 13 years, and now I'm doing work that I truly love: I build bicycles. It's my chance to be an advocate for the sport that I've always loved. I couldn't be luckier.
In some regions young people don't move out because they can't afford. The cost of housing is prohibitive.
http://www.joemanthey.com/
On this web site you will find the answers to many of the questions being asked in the Post. The other disturbing question not raised is why are Conservatives so slow to respond the the attacks on Boys in our Schools. It is a fact that 85% of the Ritalin in the world is consumed in the US.
That we are drugging 3.3 million US Males under age 19 is a disaster. Why is this not an issue? Our culture has undergone a profound Anti-Male bias. Men are ridiculed, impugned, hated, demonized in our Network TV shows. Half of our Boys grow up in Single Mother homes with no idea of what a Father is. HALF.
Add to that the neurological differences in the Male brain. The changes in an education system openly hostile towards males, and designed for Females. Now add the American Association of University Women (Rabid Feminists & Lesbians), the Wellsley Women's Center, promoting the Gender Equity Movement. Their answer remake boys into Little Girls, change the Boys not the School.
Conservative Women why are you silent? Why are you allowing your Sons, Nephews, & Grandsons to be drugged into Zombies. Australia issued a warning last week about Ritalin. Deaths in boys as young as 5 from Heart Attacks & Strokes!!!
My challenge to those who claim to embrace Conservatism is simple. The Liberals and their New World Order Social Engineers have wrecked Family Life in the US. Half our Children go to be without their Father in their homes. The Black Family is an oxymoron. The Gender Equity Movement is trying to emasculate and chemically castrate young Males. Why are you silent???? Men are not being heard by our Law Makers. It is the Women's vote that they are after.
When will Conservative Women step forward and do something about the Feminists, the Divorce Culture in America, the outrageous Family Courts system, and Feminization of US Churches??
Which studies and conducted by whom?
My kids are 16 and 11. A girl and a boy. They both know that when they graduate from college they are expected to live their own lives. Do they find it scary? Sure. But you know what? So did I when I was 21 and just out of college. They'll survive -- and they'll be better off for it.
The problem is that many so called conservative women are ready to betray the cause for a feminist advantage.
The oppose feminism but not too much.
It makes you wonder why they call themselves conservatives in the first place.
Right on.
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