Sometimes my husband and I will be out and we'll see a black couple together with their children, obviously married, and I'll say, "that's so nice." And he'll say, "you always say that." And I say it because I don't see it very often.
They may LOOK happy but you have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.
I see this marriage fixation as over rated.A lot of people just aren't cut out for marriage.
And rake me over the coals for my stereotyping but way too many black women care whats ON their heads,not whats IN their heads.
These black men aren't stupid.Many of them grew up in a matriarchal society.NEVER say anything bad about moms if you value your health but in the back of their minds they see a black woman who gets too close and they back away fearing that mom's dominating precense will again reappear in the form of a wife.
I am white,grew up in a two parent home and adored both my mother and father.But it was a rocky marriage and no model for me or my brothers and sister,none of us who has ever married.
I see the social and cultural value of marriage.I just never have seen it work in the world I live in.
no kidding..
I am always very happy when I see black couples who look like they share my values but it is not common
it was much more common when I was a boy