My husband went into our daughter's room (she's 7) on Saturday with a broom and swept everything on the floor into a pile at the door........what should have taken her an hour to pick up took more than 4 because of the tantrums she kept throwing and excuses for taking breaks, etc........can't for the life of us figure out where the stubborn streak comes from :^)
As a young teen I came home from a dance one night to find all the clutter in my room on my bed, I was tired and had to clean it up just to go to bed. My dad did it. Lesson learned.
Yuppers! Thankfully, the tantrums aren't too frequent anymore.
I've seen benefits to the strong willed/stubbornness in my daughter too. She thinks for herself and doesn't submit to peer nonesense. (saw this for myself when she was on cheerleading).
So I will take the circle jerk of the room if she isn't going to let herself be pressured by other kids too.