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To: starbase

When I was 10, "I said" that my aunt's husband was molesting me.
I continued to say it for nearly 5 years.
Halfway through my 4th year, my little 10 year cousin came to me and "she said" he was molesting her.
"We both said" to our mothers and -nothing- was ever done about it.
[they didn't want to "ruin" my aunt's life]
Another cousin never said anything that any of us ever heard but suddenly her mother and my uncle completely disappeared from the family scene around the time that the cousin turned 10.

"The family" made up weird theories rather than face the likely probability.

The aunt that's married to the 'weird uncle' was a 4th grade teacher who often brought students to their home.

How many innocent lives were "touched" by that man because "she said" wasn't good enough?

He's living a wonderful life right now; a veritable pillar of the community and respected Christian.
Any accusation against him would be met with open derision, lacking the support of parents who believed what their kids had said.

The [now grown] little girls are all living varied degrees of living hells.


I applaud the parents who would go to such lengths to protect their children.

There are other parents who do nothing for fear of creating a "scene".


How I wish mine had been the former rather than the latter.



24 posted on 12/19/2005 7:06:55 PM PST by Salamander (Cursed With Second Sight)
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To: Salamander
"How many innocent lives were "touched" by that man because "she said" wasn't good enough?"

Then there's Tawana Brawley. Darn good thing that people's trigger fingers were slow in that case.

30 posted on 12/19/2005 7:16:52 PM PST by robertpaulsen
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To: Salamander
Wow, well I'm so sorry for your terrible experience. In your case it sounds like there was plenty of proof for suspicion and lot's of effort to bury it all, rather than address it. I am sorry.

In this particular case I only read that a woman "said" a man did something after she had shot him dead.

Based on your experience I think you're reading in a presumption of guilt, and based on my lack of any personal experience in this I think I'm reading in a presumption of innocence, or at least a right to trial.

I do understand the part about how the predator will spread to victim after victim. I read about one mother who sat in her car in her garage with her little daughter until they were both dead because she knew if she ran off with the daughter to protect her from the molesting ex-husband, and got caught later,then the ex-husband would get custody.

It's painful and difficult. But I'm not going to support just gunning people down as the standard way of doing things because then anyone can start killing legally for other reasons they can think of. It's human nature.
38 posted on 12/19/2005 7:25:36 PM PST by starbase (Understanding Written Propaganda (click "starbase" to learn 22 manipulating tricks!!))
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To: Salamander

Oh I am so deeply sad over what you and your cousins went through. How terrible your parents did not listen to and do something about what was happening. I hope and pray you all find peace and happiness as well. God help the perverts who hurt children. They will pay. They will. Good luck to you and to your cousins.


41 posted on 12/19/2005 7:27:53 PM PST by cubreporter (I trust Rush. He has done more for this country than anyone will ever know. He's A++)
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To: Salamander
Is there a statute of limitations on this particular crime? Is your aunt's husband still in contact with children?

Just wondering, it may not be too late to protect some little girl.

55 posted on 12/19/2005 8:15:37 PM PST by Tuscaloosa Goldfinch (Thank goodness "Terayza" is not first lady.)
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To: Salamander

Why all the quotation marks? They don't add clarity, and they make the reader think that what's inside them isn't necessarily so.

In a context such as the above, quotation marks are the punctuation equivalent of putting "alleged" or "so-called" in front of the words inside them.


83 posted on 12/20/2005 12:16:05 PM PST by Xenalyte (Tom Cruise is in my closet and he won't come out.)
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To: Salamander

What a terrible thing to have to live through, God Bless and keep you.


86 posted on 12/20/2005 12:31:59 PM PST by Ditter
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To: Salamander
I applaud the parents who would go to such lengths to protect their children.

There are other parents who do nothing for fear of creating a "scene".

There are those who will do anything-- I mean ANYTHING-- to avoid any form of shame or embarrassment.

It's easier to sacrifice a child than your life (marriage, family, circle of friends, community status, church, mostly your whole frame of reality). Besides, if you tell the kid they're exaggerating, being overly emotional or 'don't understand what he's trying to do', you'll start to believe it yourself.

I applaud this mother too.

91 posted on 12/20/2005 12:59:49 PM PST by najida (I yam wadda yam.)
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To: Salamander

Mine was a brother. He has a daughter now. My children are not allowed around him; we have done the disappear from the family scene.


128 posted on 12/20/2005 5:24:24 PM PST by ican'tbelieveit
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To: Salamander

Where was your father?


165 posted on 12/20/2005 9:48:21 PM PST by razorbak
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To: Salamander

I sincerely hope that you find some peace in this world......you deserve it....


179 posted on 12/21/2005 3:09:27 AM PST by cherry
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To: Salamander

I know a family who is going through the same hell.

Grandpa (pillar of the community, deacon of the church, Bible thumper) was a child molestor and managed to molest two generations of kids. To this day nobody in that family is allowed to admit it, but his victims live with this hell everyday.

If this were my family, I probably wouldn't have shot him, I'd PAY someone to hurt him really bad, though. Had it been my daughter, niece, or anyone close to me, he'd have been beaten to a pulp everytime he looked at a girl the wrong way.


191 posted on 12/21/2005 7:40:06 AM PST by girlangler (I'd rather be fishing)
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To: Salamander

Here in Kentucky we have two types of law "legal action" and "double action". Your Uncle should have gotten the latter.


211 posted on 12/22/2005 10:37:51 AM PST by reagandemo (The battle is near are you ready for the sacrifice?)
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