I have struggled with this very much since my wife died. And yesterday, I read a thread about a young girl who dies because of a kiss.
It can be a very lonely world. And there is no solace in thinking here is no God. If I decide I can't believe in him, it doesn't mean I'm out partying every night.
Ultimately, as I grow older and get into the time of life that my father passed in, it is quite disappointing. No matter how good I am, no matter how charitable, friendly, forgiving or mercifull, I will never know even simple things - things like what's gonna happen in the next hundred years or so.
If you have faith, then hold on to it. And try not to be so harsh on those who struggle.
By what conceit does it even matter if you understand why God makes things happen the way they do? We are curious, sure. But the fact that life does not unfold according to our desires is not that surprising. We are, after all, not God but his children. Just be happy that you have been given the gift of life. It sure beats the alternative.
Sorry for your loss.
I don't know if you saw this article yesterday, but it might interest you.......(or not)
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1529049/posts
Sympathies on the loss of your wife.
Have you ever read the book, "A Grief Observed" by C.S. Lewis? He wrote it after the death of his wife, and I found it an enlightening book as he dealt with his raw emotions and his dealings with God, "the great iconoclast."
Harsh...? I said I don't care what they think. It's not my job to convince anyone that there is a God. I'm too busy with my own life to care about anothers non belief.
If you consider my not caring as 'harsh' then I suspect that claiming to not have faith is simply a way for people to get the attention they crave. No thanks