[HungarianGypsy]

My dad died 11 years and a week from tomorrow. I remember my one thought was getting things done right. My other thought was I was not going to be one of those people the media shows crying on the news. I was called "unusually in control". My mom accused me of having no feelings because I didn't want to sit around crying and watching the news. I had to keep doing things.
As for clothing... my in-laws bought me a black dress because I had requested it. But no one in our church really wears black to a funeral (unless you count suits). Years later when my husband's grandma died I wore a pretty, white floral dress to that funeral.

[andysandmikesmom]

I am not sure if many people anymore wear black at funerals...at my sons funeral, I wore a purple jumper, with a white blouse...because my son loved me in that outfit, that is what I wore to his funeral...

As for his clothing...he knew he was dying soon..so he told me what he wanted to be buried in...his favorite jeans, his favorite shoes, a new shirt he had just bought one of the last times we were out together, and his hat, that he always wore, to cover his 'balding' head, which was balding because of all the chemo...and so I brought those items to the funeral home, and my son was buried in what he wanted to be buried in...he said, he rarely wore a suit in life, and he did not want to wear one in death...so I followed his last wishes...