And this is why the topic very seldom gets raised and men suffer in silence. We fall into a damned if we say somenthing and damned if we don't situation. Much as we try to ignore it, especially while we are in church, men are visually oriented and can normally scope out and 'assess' a room with a single scan. We are wired that way and it takes an awful lot of will power to overcome that wiring. (women by the way tend to be more touch oriented)
I realize you are both ribbing me though but in other circumstances it may not be a rib
"Much as we try to ignore it, especially while we are in church, men are visually oriented and can normally scope out and 'assess' a room with a single scan."
Hmmm...I'm afraid I have to disagree with you on that one. In my churchgoing days, long ago, I took it pretty seriously and saved any ogling for other places and occasions.
I suspect you'd find the girls attractive, regardless of what they are wearing. That's OK, but it's not the jeans that are the source of the problem, really.
I'm just funnin' you. Seriously, I think a talk with the pastor will help. That situation isn't right. Hopefully, someone will understand. Some people just don't see what they're wearing as being provacative and distracting.
I've heard that before. This is probably going to be taken wrong but it is a distraction even to women, even though NOT for the same reasons. Women KNOW that skin and that kind of dress attracts men and that's why they use it. I don't believe any woman that claims ignorance or innocence in this area. The idea that it's the men's fault because "that's where their mind is" is just a cop out to avoid responsibility for their actions. You can dress very nicely without being provacative and I think it looks a lot more classy.