i.e. experience
generalizations do not invalidate first hand experiences no matter how valid the generalizations are.
After my experience...I realize my antenna goes up with certain phrases or attitudes. I always thought I did everything I was supposed to in a relationship... i.e., the Proverbs woman....but in fact......I did too much. I've been told I should have let my ex crash and burn... just like you would an unruly child who refuses to learn the rules. Although I didn't "carp".... I DID resent not having a husband, lover and friend in that glorified roommate! *chuckle*
Maybe I'm shooting too high...but I know there are strong, gentle men out there....and I just don't want to settle for less. For right now... I'm content in life without drama. :)
Ever heard the phrase... Better a crumb eaten in peace....than a feast, in strife?