After my experience...I realize my antenna goes up with certain phrases or attitudes. I always thought I did everything I was supposed to in a relationship... i.e., the Proverbs woman....but in fact......I did too much. I've been told I should have let my ex crash and burn... just like you would an unruly child who refuses to learn the rules. Although I didn't "carp".... I DID resent not having a husband, lover and friend in that glorified roommate! *chuckle*
Maybe I'm shooting too high...but I know there are strong, gentle men out there....and I just don't want to settle for less. For right now... I'm content in life without drama. :)
Ever heard the phrase... Better a crumb eaten in peace....than a feast, in strife?
My wife recently told me of a genuinely very nice friend of hers that decided after twenty-five years to up and divorce her husband.
When my wife asked why, the woman said the guy wouldn't do anything. I mean nothing. No going out. No chores. No affection. After he retired, he spent his existence watching television, so she moved out, divorced him, and counted herself lucky.
Well guess what...now that she's dumped him, the bastard won't sit still. He bears a remarkable resemblance to someone who's just had a "ball and chain" removed. ;^)
Needless to say, the wife and I are both wondering what part of the story we're not getting.