While that's part of what might be going on, us men know that single women in their mid to late 30s are much more likely to give us the kind of shallow sex we want without much of a commitment of time and money than a younger, fitter, attractive woman might demand.
Talk about stability, loyalty, maturity, etc. is what a lot of us guys call 'lines' - that is, validate the worldview of the woman we are speaking to, validate whatever she says no matter how dumb it sounds, evaluate her self image quickly and feed it back to her to create that sense of connection. It's easy, really.
I am not saying that's true about you ladies. I am only suggesting what may be motivating some of these men. I'ver been a male all my life, so I have a grasp of the dynamics here.
Why do we always waste so much time on these threads? LOL! I'm sitting by the pool at a very nice resort in Scottsdale, Arizona right now...and I'm still wasting time posting on this thread! ;)
You may be right.......but that's not where I'm coming from. I call those type of guys....users, losers and players. If I had to "settle" for that.....I'd just as soon be alone and not waste my time.
If a guy's putting on some act for his own ulterior motive, he won't be able to keep it up forever. The longer a woman waits to have sex, the more frustrated the guy gets at not getting what he wants and sooner rather than later the truth comes out and the true colors are shown. Its a win-win: the woman doesn't get used, discarded and hurt, and the guy can stop wasting his time and move on down the line to an easier woman.
Patience is the tool that forces deception to reveal itself. Another principal not learned by the oh -so-successful, independant, career woman.
Yes Hitman you have been a male all your life but NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE YOU!