That's not entirely good advice.
It really has to do with what the woman has in mind and her expectations. A woman in her mid 30s has a more limited range of choices than a woman in her mid 20s, for reasons I outlined in this thread. Even a good man has no interest in an absentee mate - one he finds out that she won't be around more than she will be, he will likely (though not definietly) replace her with a more compatible woman.
Also very religious folks tend to be very traditional. A verytraditional man may not desire a woman who makes more money than him and who has excessive career demands. The truth is, and I have said this many times on FR, he doesn't have to. Now more than ever, finding a compatible woman is a buyer's market, not a seller's market. The woman in her late 30s with a great career is just competing with many women who offer more of what men are interested in. Her situation is not impossible: she just needs to focus her attention on men more her speed, and maybe expand her taste a bit to include different races, maybe an older man than she desired, etc.
You're addressing the symptoms, not the problem.
Excellent post; I couldn't have said it better myself.
Yeah. Like THAT would ever happen. Women are so used to combating men in the workplace that they would never stoop to demeaning themselves by enguaging in anything other than workplace efforts. If it's not Corporate, it's Not Counting, seems to be the modern standard. I recall not too long ago reading about one woman who had written in to advice column that she just could not seem to find a man. Her friends were advising her that perhaps she was just a bit too intimidaging and that tended to turn men away, but she complained that that did not seem to stop the truck drivers and busboys from asking her out. I nearly busted a gut laughing at the total cluelessness of the woman. Obviously, if you are at all blue-collar then don't waste your time approaching her; your bank account is not nearly large enough to feed her appitites, lol.
Yeah. Like THAT would ever happen. Women are so used to combating men in the workplace that they would never stoop to demeaning themselves by enguaging in anything other than workplace efforts. If it's not Corporate, it's Not Counting, seems to be the modern standard. I recall not too long ago reading about one woman who had written in to advice column that she just could not seem to find a man. Her friends were advising her that perhaps she was just a bit too intimidating and that tended to turn men away, but she complained that that did not seem to stop the truck drivers and busboys from asking her out. I nearly busted a gut laughing at the total cluelessness of the woman. Obviously, if you are at all blue-collar then don't waste your time approaching her; your bank account is not nearly large enough to feed her appetites, lol.
Ooops! Sorry for the double post. Finger slipped.