That's the most cynical and outrageous and wrong thing I've read yet. I do not believe that you are not divorced and bitter. I do not believe you are happily married. (What is "contentedly married"? An insult to your own wife?)
"The legal and social system as it is today" is not like you describe at all.
No man could be so emasculated if he didn't let it happen to him, and it doesn't happen by getting married.
You live in some dreamland not contiguous with any part of the United States. No. Never been divorced, never thought about it. The town I live in has always been culturally somewhat behind the rest of the country and now that my town is more or less caught up, my wife has been doing it long enough that she is not looking for new adventures and her conservative views are sufficiently molded in that she's not going to throw them over so easily as a 20-40 y.o. would.
Any young man has to know that if he marries there will be times sooner or not much later when there will be disagreements and emotional hard times. Once upon a time when the Law was not every woman's vengeful Big Brother, it was expected that these bumps in the road would be smoothed out, couples would work things out. Now the whole culture says to the woman as soon as he refuses to go to the in-laws' house for Christmas this year-HE IS AN ABUSER! RUN AWAY! HE OWES YOU FOR THE YEARS HE HAS STOLEN FROM YOU! And it's all so easy, besides.
You've never met Margaret...