You live in some dreamland not contiguous with any part of the United States. No. Never been divorced, never thought about it. The town I live in has always been culturally somewhat behind the rest of the country and now that my town is more or less caught up, my wife has been doing it long enough that she is not looking for new adventures and her conservative views are sufficiently molded in that she's not going to throw them over so easily as a 20-40 y.o. would.
Any young man has to know that if he marries there will be times sooner or not much later when there will be disagreements and emotional hard times. Once upon a time when the Law was not every woman's vengeful Big Brother, it was expected that these bumps in the road would be smoothed out, couples would work things out. Now the whole culture says to the woman as soon as he refuses to go to the in-laws' house for Christmas this year-HE IS AN ABUSER! RUN AWAY! HE OWES YOU FOR THE YEARS HE HAS STOLEN FROM YOU! And it's all so easy, besides.
No, I don't live in a dreamland. I live in the real world as a widow the last 8 years, raising 4 sons after my husband died from a chronic illness. We owned no home or property and he had no life insurance beyond a couple thousand to cover memorial expenses. I was a stay-at-home mother who never earned more than a dollar over minumum wage. He was ill and unable to work for a couple years before he died, and I stayed with him and worked and did all I could until death did part us. Social Security has allowed us to scrape by while I raise the boys, and now I'm off to find a job -- probably no better than the one I had last year as Christmas sales help in a department store for $6.95 hr.
I've never been a "powerful woman" so I didn't post on this thread until now, but your screed about poor abused married men and the women who are out to ruin them didn't ring true. You are not seeing the big picture, just a bitter little corner.