Posted on 09/17/2005 6:59:48 AM PDT by teldon30
Dear Amy: I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count frisky 85-year-olds and drunks at the corner bar). I'm a 32-year-old woman who's happy, sociable, and attractive. (I paid for college by modeling and continue to take care of myself.) I'm second-in-command at a big company, financially secure, and own a beautiful home. How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?
Deluxe Chopped Liver
Dear Deluxe: To scare away vampires, it takes garlic and crosses, which make ugly bulges in sleek, satin evening bags. Luckily, all you have to do to scare away men is pull out a business card that says ''senior vice president.''
''Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac,'' said Henry Kissinger. Sure it is unless you're a woman. Research by Stephanie L. Brown and Brian P. Lewis, published in Evolution and Human Behavior (Nov. '04), seems to confirm what many lonely women at the top already know: When guys go for the woman in the boardroom, it isn't the woman running the meeting but the secretary who wheeled in the coffee and croissants before it started.
Sure, plenty of men will scamper up the corporate ladder for a one-night stand. But, according to Brown and Lewis' study, men looking for dates or relationships tend to prefer their subordinates to their colleagues or bosses. The researchers hypothesize that men evolved to want women they can control as a means of guarding against ''parental uncertainty'' unwittingly raising kids fathered by the Neanderthal next door as their own. Brown and Lewis think this may also explain why men are suckers for ''behavioral expressions of vulnerability'' women who act like they might not be able to make it across the street
(Excerpt) Read more at mcall.com ...
I'll start dating again when my therapist tells me I can (last time I mentioned it, she dropped her pad, started shaking and burst into tears screaming NooOOOoo No no no no!).
Until then, I'm gonna just sit on the sidelines and snark :>
newflash, a woman who is asking men out is not worthy of a relationship.
That is just a perscription for meaningless recreational sex.
This is like the feminist BS of women asking men to marry them. Not going to happen.
LOL. You'll start dating again when the next studly man shows up at your door! :o)
I would post one......cept I haven't had the time to figure out HOW ...on this website. Any tipz?
I think you are right.
The complainer was probably an *ssh*l* LONG before she had her "career".
I think it is amusing that she blames the men for not noticing her. (iow: her gold plated genitals)
Beauty is only skin deep, ugly goes straight to the bone.
Story of my life.
BTW - The article didn't really answer the original question, "How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?"
Hilarious.
What about a gal with a 17 foot canoe, a bassboat, and enough fishing tackle to start her own Bass Pro Shop?
Never met a fish she didn't like (I'll even take a carp on a flyrod) and can make everything from homemade bisquits to Brunswick stew on an open fire. After SHE builds the fire?
Cleans her own fish -- that is the ones she doesn't release or have mounted?
It's not evolution. It's the way God made us. Men in charge.
A good place to meet a man is at the dry cleaner. These men usually have jobs and bathe.
I disagree and your perception might be based on your age
There are generational differences of men and women roles
GenX was raised in a different culture than a BabyBoomer so a GenX may proceed differently and have different expetations than a Baby Boomer male
It would appear from your post that you aren't looking in the right places for women as it seems that the majority of contact you write about has been with unkind women which in itself is slanted.
If you are being "rejected" by these types of women than consider the source instead of whining about how mean women are.
Makes me wish I lived in MI.
LaineyDee,
I also took an extended trip out west this summer. I went whitewater rafting on the Yellowstone River, did Yellowstone, Taos, New Mexico, Jackson Hole, Wyoming and even a brief stint into Utah.
It was awesome!!!
I want to go to Alaska next year.
That's "moot." "Mute" means quiet and the person to whom you are replying is probably not very quiet.
I like being pursued, I don't like being used.
Most of the women today are feminists that think they "desreve" everything to be put before them on a silver platter.
Sorry cupcake, aint gonna happen here.
Indeed I noticed FOG24 came clean as a scrolled down subsequent threads.
My point still stands however, men don't take serious, on whole, women who pursue them. Their just exercise along the way. A man needs to pursue what he wants. Otherwise he's just milking cows and killing time.
Men who are honest with themselves know this. Those that refute this are lazy, scared or both.
PS: I was sucessful with "B-Teams Players" for 20 years before reaizing I'd never meet my life mate unless going after what I WANTED. Been married 6 years and life's fantastic. I wish I wouldn't have wasted those 20 years being pursued by those "foggy types".
Great advice--just what I was looking for. Thanks.
One of my (few) complaints about the Lord of the Rings is that Sauron as a character wasn't explored enough, but that was probably deliberate so Tolkien could let the reader build his/her own protrayal of what ultimate evil would be like personified. By the way, I have nothing to do this weekend. Any suggestions?
j/k... :-)
"And also, they believe that it is the man's duty to make everything perfect forever...if not, the bloke's got to go"
I have met quite a few, and I have gone.
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