What do you mean you've been Lutheran for over 40 years? There's Lutheran and then there's Lutheran. There is a world of difference between the synods.
I, too, was raised "Lutheran", and it's been much longer than 40 years. I was raised Lutheran when it meant something. The same synod in which I was raised has gone through to two mergers to where it is now part of the apostate ELCA.
We left 13 years ago for a real "Lutheran" church--LCMS.
I can't see why some Lutheran freepers remain in an ELCA church all the while complaining about it.
I'm a baptized, confirmed Lutheran Church Missouri Synod member. I suffer no self-inflicted liberal trauma as a member of this conservative, bible-based Church.
Leni