I have said this before, now, I will say it again. I believe that feminism started for LEGITIMATE reasons, back in the day. Reasons, such as(1) right to vote, (2) equal pay, ( I mean if two people are doing the SAME job, equally well, they SHOULD be paid the same, REGARDLESS of sex(now, a situation where things are "fixed", in which one person is merely a 'token" employee, and someone else, does that persons work for them BUT, the other person gets PAID for "just being there", TAHT is $hit.I have been in this situation before, where an Older man, who brown-nosed the boss, but was NOT qualified, got ALL of my work, and I was expected to do HIS work for him, or at least, help him, but HE got paid for the work I did. )
Anyhoo, fair pay, and Voting rights, along with REAL harassment issues, is where feminism grew from . HOWEVER, it is NOT about that anymore, or has it been for a LONG time. Now, it is merely about destroying the nuclear family, putting men into a worthless, demoralized place in society,expanding and protecting abortion, and furthering the gay agenda. (at least this is what the leaders, like NOW, are doing, Hence, my new name for them-- Femilezis"
However, not ALL the blame for marriages "going south', can be placed at women's feet. Sometimes, men do bring things on themselves, or drive a good woman away. I will give 3 situations, where the women are NOT to blame, and the men are "whores,losers, and abusers".
In the first instance, a man, around 53, is currently living with a woman, of similar age. This woman recently underwent a cancer operation, for pancreatic cancer(successful, so far). Now, is this man, being "faithful" with this woman, NO-- he is ONLY using this woman, as a "place to toss his bedroll", and FOR HER MEDICAL NSURANCE, and her money. he goes out of town, on a regular basis, to work, and meets women in bars, for one-nighters,on a regular basis. In the past, this man has been married 4 times, and in EACH case(as I am told, )cheated regularly, until the wives gave up.(rightfully so, NO ONE should be someone's doormat!!)
In another case, a man, whom I went to school with, is in his second marriage, and is a regular drug-user. His wife generally has to make any money, for the household, because this man CANNOT keep a job, because of this drug problem. Still the wife stays with his(I have been told, "only for the child's sake, they have an 8 year-old son between them)
In the third case, another guy i went to school with, recently underwent his SECOND divorce, because he BEAT UP his wife, and in this case, it WAS true, this guy has ALWAYS been disrespectful, and nasty toward women, and he was in jail for 6 months for this. Now, his wife was a drug-user, as is he, BUT still, I think most of it was HIS fault.
SO, it is NOT "all women's fault", sometimes it is the MAN'S fault. Sometimes it is BOTH spouses fault. More often, both spouses are too selfish, and concerned with "what is in it for me", and when something does not go their way, out the door.
I REALLY do hope this will change. But I think most people, men AND women, are just to selfish, and hard-headed, to want to "compromise", for the needs of another. For men, it is HT, Boats, sports cars, etc, for women, jewelry, clothes, etc, but NEITHER seem to be willing to give a little, so BOTH can be happy.
Oh, and one more thing:; BOTH men and women, should plan to be FAITHFUL, when they enter a marriage. Once you commit to another, that is IT, no more "side dishes", at least, that is the way it should be. It was that way for my parents, and it WILL be that way for me, if my time ever comes.