Name some feminists, popular ones you beleive are the real deal. The fact is the key palyers in the feminist movement, the actually folks pouring money into scholarships, school books, tv ads, tv programs, etc etc. Are launching a massive propaganda effort against traditional female roles and a massive effort for women in traditionally male roles. You're quaint idea of what feminism 'really is' is irelevant because the people in the movement moving it forward do not share you're happy 'we can all get along' attitude.
These key players by definition are not feminists then. What is at fault here is your broad stroke "tar-everyone-with-the-same-brush" definitions.
I think you mean my text book dictionary definition, alas you are failing to see that it is your definition and terminology that is at fault. Feminism has a different meaning to what you are describing, if you want to appear knowledgeable on this subject call them by their proper names. They are extremists NOT feminists