Sorry with that statement you just disqualified yourself as someone knowledgeable in this area.
Name some feminists, popular ones you beleive are the real deal. The fact is the key palyers in the feminist movement, the actually folks pouring money into scholarships, school books, tv ads, tv programs, etc etc. Are launching a massive propaganda effort against traditional female roles and a massive effort for women in traditionally male roles. You're quaint idea of what feminism 'really is' is irelevant because the people in the movement moving it forward do not share you're happy 'we can all get along' attitude.