Maybe pops was out gambling all night and that would explain the trips to the ATM..It would also explain the inconsistencies in his story if he didn't want his wife to find out..I also wondered before if they took NH to VD'S house because that is where he would have the web cam..Pops is out all night and the kids have the place to themselves
so they slip something into her drink before they leave the bar..They drive around until she falls asleep then take her to the VD house..this way she doesn't know where she is..J wakes up at 6 am but Nat doesn't..J then calls Crows for help..this is where the father come into the picture
Not to mention the fact that Joran has his own 'apartment-like' set up behind the main house. The kid has obviously been free to come and go without anyone hearing him from the main house.