I'm saying that MANY people claim a mom "staying home with the kids" is SO important.
The father in the story is obviously not one of them ... but there are many people, particularly here at FR, who claim that a mom should stay at home with the kids. Where are they now?
That's my question as well.
BTW, I believe moms should stay home with their kids. Dads, maybe, if there is no way mom can.
Staying home with children is important. Women should ideally have options, but many don't, and that's OK too. I have a lot of respect for men who recognize women as primary caretakers and strive to ensure that they can dedicate themselves to their children. Many men have no problem with women who give their career priority, then don't understand why they're too tired for anything else. I've seen plenty of women who really lose respect for their spouses once they out earn them and those who stray when tempted by attractive men in the office.
I think its great when a mom can stay at home with the kids, but an intact family (or independent wealth) is a prerequisite for that arrangement. Having fathers forced to support children while simultaneously revoking all their parental rights is a greater evil than a working mother.
The children spend 50/50 time with the parents. The children are all of school age. Tell me why her refusal to provide for the children is justified? There is a difference between being a stay at home mom for the sake of your children and a stay at home mom because you are too lazy to get and keep a job and/or soak father for more money. Fathers are nothing more than paychecks to the family court system. Anybody who says otherwise hasn't been in front of the judge.
One of 'em is right here. This is a pretty unique case for me to be commenting on, however. I do believe that, in light of what appears to be a rather acrimonious divorce, the children here could probably stand to have more parental involvement--either parent, I'm not trying to make a judgement call. What I don't really understand is how the mother can actually be more involved with her kids, given their ages. Is she planning on homeschooling them? If not, she's going to spend her days rattling around in her mansion while her kids are in class. Doesn't sound a whole lot like SAHMothering to me. Hell, I just returned to part time work because two of my three kids are now school age.
No clear winners in this case, just a couple of real losers.