Posted on 04/10/2005 3:32:35 PM PDT by paltz
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All the smart men that I know including the one that I look at in the mirror when I get up in the morning have their feet solldly planted in the nineteenth century. This is a problem because most women have their feet planted in the last half of the twentieth century as well as the century that we are all presently living in. This transcends the red state, blue state thingy. Smart men looking for women who have not progressed are going to have follow the telemarketers and look to outsource from Asia.
Exactly. This is a classic case of a solution in search of a problem. Most smart men I know are happily married and at the risk of sounding presumptous, I include myself among the smart men who are happily married.
There's a lot of "over-explaining" going on in this article!
Of course, but not bad engineers. I think its an oxymoron. Here's an entry I made to the Bulwer-Lytton bad fiction contest.( which didn't win LOL)
She regarded Marvin as he grazed through the salad and smiled weedily at her with the green stuff still stuck in his teeth, explaining as he broke and joined the little oil globules in the vinaigrette that sexual attraction was just about getting close enough to break surface tension, complete with a discussion about miscible properties and formulas detailing the inevitable merging of their globs that left her wondering, how do engineers ever get laid?
I don't disagree with you - I'm just saying that the being a good listener advice, in itself, isn't a good strategy.
Only on Valentines Day, her Birthday and Christmas.
On those days, an 'intelligent man' is sitting in a sports bar with his buddies with a beer in hand, and his cell phone turned OFF.
Most women want someone who is empathetic, yet who know when to drop it and take charge of the situation when necessary. Good looks and money also help a lot, the former more than the latter, though.
Why would a smart man want to?
The old saying "Don't marry out of your class" applies to dating and intelligence too.
The only 'secret' to a smart man being successful with women is to stick to the smart ones.
And fortunately we have come to the right place, because any woman smart enough to hold her own on FR is smart enough to be beyond being 'managed' by a technique or skill set.
SO9
Bump to that.
Well.....usually the man will need to make sure that the woman gets the idea that he's worth talking to.
"Dumb men are a turnoff. Smart men are sexy!"
I'm with you on this one. Nothing is as exciting or mesmerising as a really smart man. Witty, clever, wise, deep-thinking...yowzah!
Smart women LIKE smart men.
It's good you feel that way, but the stone cold truth is that most women do not agree with you.
I make no claims to being smart, but I have always been perceived as being smart, which in this case amounts to the same thing. I can tell you honestly that my reputation for intellect was always my biggest handicap with women.
(Mrs. P. says she sees things differently, of course, but we were good friends for many years before we ever dated, which dominates her perceptions.)
Other physics geeks widely have the same experience. We would call it "The Wall": the invisible barrier that would fall in front of a girl's face the moment she discovered that a physics nerd was hitting on her. We could see it in their faces.
I myself did fairly well with women, but only because I was persistent, bold and in decent physical shape. I succeeded in spite of my reputed intellect, not because of it.
Too funny....being a gentleman first, in my books, is most important. Southern men seem to have this down whether smart or not.
Social skills are skills. That's the key word
There aren't enough hours in a lifetime to become highly skilled in everything. People tend to pick what things to devote time to becoming skilled at. Some people pick karate, others biochemistry, others conversation and social skills
Your friend just didn't take the time to devote to studying social skills, and to see what worked and what didn't.
Oh, and "very intelligent" is very subjective.
My entry didn't win either. I've long since misplaced it, but it was something to the effect of: "As Jake flew his plane through the blackness, wind, and rain which to which he had become accustomed, his routine was interrupted when his environment was replaced by a bright clear sky; not only was it no longer dark and stormy--Jake was left wondering if it was even night."
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