My mother was slowly dying because the baby inside her was dying. She had a 104 degree fever and nearly died. Her womb was scarred forever. Abortion was not an option in 1958. I have no siblings because of that. My father had to sit by her bedside and watch his wife almost die, then see a dead, green baby, then bury his only son by himself because she was hospitalized for weeks afterward. The resulting depression in both of them blackened our family for decades.
Unless you have been there, don't call my ideas moronic or trash. Try praying for me and the rest of us who can't get past the shades of gray here.
I have known two women who have had a similar experience, pamom. The men on this thread don't know what they are talking about.
They would be just as happy to let the woman AND the baby die.
Their dilemma no longer exists.
God chose to have your mother live. I'm sorry that they could not see that. They should have moved on in joy knowing God had proved that she had a larger purpose in life. I'm sorry they didn't.
Murdering babies is trash. Millions and millions of babies have been murdered using the extremely rare circumstances you described as an excuse .