"His excuse for not accepting these passages was ... "2 of same sex can be married and then one called the man and the other the wife. Who are we to say."
This guy is a kook!
Check the links to Strong's reference on the Old Testament Hebrew use of the word "Wife". See 1)a. (copy below)
Outline of Biblical Usage
1) woman, wife, female
a) woman (opposite of man) b) wife (woman married to a man)
c) female (of animals)
d) each, every (pronoun)
LINK to Strong's Hebrew 0802 Reference for the word 'Wife'.