"IIRC it is NOT ok. I think they do tests to make sure she is a virgin and not pregnant. So obviously it isn't ok if she had lovers prior to marriage."
You are correct, and I shouldn't have said it is ok for Christians to fornicate. I meant that it's better to fornicate than do adultery.
"As for Shiavo/Charles they both were HINO (husband in name only) THAT was the connection. However, remember there are different types of spouse abuse. It's just that in Charles' case the scars he left Diana with weren't visible. But, that doesn't mean they weren't devastating. to her well being."
Yes he left scars, but did she scar him? No one seems to care. They only want to scapegoat him for all of her problems, as if she had no part in them. Charles didn't blab to the papers, so we assume he wasn't scarred by her.
"In fact, sometimes the emotional and psychological scars are worse as they can take longer to heal than a black eye."
I agree 100%. But again I assert it takes two to ruin a marriage.
Yes, Charles and Camilla ruined Diana's marriage.