No, it's not the church it used to be. Of course, individual parishes differ. I broke with the church when I was dating (and eventually married) a black man--and a church that had extended me a job offer, rescinded it--and admitted that my inter-racial relationship was the reason.
Women also supported Jesus' ministry and I do believe that Mary was a good disciple. As my old fundamentalist Baptist Pastor used to say, paraphrasing Hillel in Acts, ... "If the ministry is bringing forth good fruit, who am I to speak against it?"
You have a God given right to marry whomever you please, but I would draw the line at the same gender. The fact that you have children is proof of being blessed by God, as He says that He knows us in the womb.