Women also supported Jesus' ministry and I do believe that Mary was a good disciple. As my old fundamentalist Baptist Pastor used to say, paraphrasing Hillel in Acts, ... "If the ministry is bringing forth good fruit, who am I to speak against it?"
You have a God given right to marry whomever you please, but I would draw the line at the same gender. The fact that you have children is proof of being blessed by God, as He says that He knows us in the womb.
Regarding the different levels of Torah, you are more knowledgeable than I. (I never did ask you about the cattle vs cattle--difference, please? I only know your Herefords from your Black Angus from your Jerseys...)