[unlearner]

The question of HOW is not the most important. What matters is that the behavior is innately dysfunctional and destructive.

Knowing HOW it happens is useful, not for defending it, but for helping people to avoid it and helping those who wish to get rid of it.

The people you are debating only want to speculate about how the behavior begins so they can justify it morally. (This is, by definition, self-righteousness.)

The more important question is HOW TO STOP this behavior. They only want to debate the cause, but are not interested in a cure.

[newsgatherer]

The answer to how to stop the behaviour is the same as wht do the homosexual activist hate more than anything else?

In both instances the answer is The word of God and His Word. IE, the Bible and Christ.