True enough.... The thing is, I know I'd be an excellent mom. My husbnd would be a great dad. I just have a completely different life that would have to change. For the next few years, I'd like to have that life. We just got married. We'd like to keep the plans for the life we married for and not turn all that upside down. But time's ticking against us, and I am not sure it is fair to have babies at 40.
You have a tougher choice to make than the people in the story, which was kind of a nothing story in the first place.
Before I get off this thread and get back to work, let me say this: My kids are the most important thing on earth to me. In fact, the older you get, the more you realize that they are just about the only thing that matters at all.
Well, since it seems like you're asking for input, I'll pipe up. Try to have a baby. The horses can wait. You might wonder why you even wanted to do that sort of stuff after you have a child.
It's totally fair to have a child at 40....if you can. Most women's fertility starts going downhill at 27, so I know this sounds kind of harsh, but you're behind already. I'm speaking from experience, BTW. You have a small window of opportunity now, and if you want to play now, and pay later (awful infertility treatments that cost a fortune and are rarely successful) it's your choice.
Of course, adoption is also an option....a great one IMO, but it's not for everyone. It costs a lot, and takes a lot of time, so 40 for many adoptive parents ends up looking really young.
Best of luck to you.