[TalonDJ]

Guys like concrete reasons. Telling him you don't thing you have a chance and why is much better than the vague 'it's not you it's me, no wait it really is you, but it is not personal, really. we can still be friends.'
Go ahead, tell him you need a man that shares your faith. Just think, that might be a chance to witness to him. Of it might get him thinking about things that lead to salvation. That would be much better than leaving him with just a vague feeling of nonspecific inadequacy, wouldn't it?

[TalonDJ]

of = or

[JenB]

But that really only works for someone who has some concept of how important religion is. If they don't care, it seems like an excuse... bah. This stuff is too complicated.

[TalonDJ]

I understand the temptation to give a wishywashy blowemoff answer, especially if you were put on the spot. But they did just pay you the ultimate compliment so they do deserve a somewhat decent reply that helps them improve as a person by pointing out what them might need to work on. And it really is the ultimate witness opportunity to show them that the girl they are attracted to is a strong Christian. It is sort of a 'Hey, look what you were really attracted by.'

[RosieCotton]

Go ahead, tell him you need a man that shares your faith.

*sigh* Which is what I ended up doing, after he called back all het up and asking for the real reason. And then he got upset with me for being "judgemental" - took it personally. But I think I did the best I could.

To be honest, because I won't date someone who isn't a potential marriage partner (and I try to be fairly open minded there...), I don't date much. And therefore...I almost think this guy thought I'd jump at the chance to go out with anyone - though it was just that no one had noticed me and I was probably desperate for a date.

Annnnnyway...didn't mean to go on so much about this! Ya know...sometimes it amazes me that men and wimmin are able to get along at all. ;-)