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Speaking as an American man who has been married to a Japanese woman for nearly a decade now, I think you have a few misconceptions. Very few Japanese women are hunting for green cards. Japan's a first world country with a democratic government rather than some third world cesspool and the overwhelming majority of people there don't want to leave it.

Japanese women can be just as bitchy, naggy and otherwise unpleasant as their western counterparts and the stereotype of them as little, submissive domestic and sexual servants is pure BS, but there is one very real difference between them and American women. Japanese women are much more comfortable with traditional gender roles. They tend to respect men for being masculine and have no desire to be masculine themselves.

But define masculine. Does that mean wanting a careeer, or haivng goals that do not involve laundry? Does that mean likes to go hiking, hunting, or sky diving? Does masculine mean likes sports? Is there something wrong with American women who like sports, can and do use firearms and have dreams and goals of their own?

And one can also be aware the great differences AMONG Japanese women. There are many older women (30s and 40s), who have completely different value systems when it comes to family values/loyalty and obligation (who learned these conservative concepts from their mothers) -- (but of course most of them are married, but many miserably), and younger single Japanese women in their late teens or 20s, to whom hip-hop, multiple fornicative partners, STDs, staying out all night, and never cooking a day in their life, is their central being.

One can meet Japanese women at the tops of their careers in law, banking, journalism, in a Christian church in Tokyo or perhaps on PhD work at Harvard or Princeton, or one could go to the Club Alliance disco at Yokosuka US Naval Base on a Friday night and see heavily made-up Japanese women in miniskirts who are drop-outs from high school, from broken homes, who go to a hotel with an American GI within 30 minutes of meeting him, only to bed down with a different GI the following weekend.

There are many different types of Japanese women, no different than the varieties of American women. One can marry into a life of love and warmth and intellectual excitement, or one can marry into a life of regrets and heartaches.