What Japanese Women Want: A Western Husband

The Christian Science Monitor ^ | December 6, 2004 | Bennett Richardson

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I was too busy raising my kids and taking care of my husband to have friends. I only needed one friend, and that was my husband. I never felt the need for more.

[Diva Betsy Ross]

Even I run away from the typical woman ( liberal friutcake) Sounds to me - from this article- that Japanese women want to be more like American women.

[Campion]

You don't? See my post immediately before yours.

[Mr. Jeeves]

Do guys even want or need a female friend?

Female acquaintances, yes. Absolutely. Even close ones. But actual friendships can't really be maintained once the man and woman are married to other people. We aren't yet such an enlightened society that such relationships fail to raise ugly suspicions.

If a man claims he wants to be a woman's friend, he wants something else. If a woman claims she wants to be a man's friend, she's trying to head off something else. It doesn't quite work, does it? ;)

[TalonDJ]

You mean the John Wayne, sweep her off her feet approach? If she has already shot you down most men that consider themselves gentlemen will back off and respect her opinion. I want a woman whose word I can believe and whose opinion I can respect. If she says 'no' then that is it. I would consider the sweep her off her feet anyway' to be disrespect. I admit it looks cool in the movies but I don't think I could do that. And I am not sure I want a woman that makes me jump through hoops. Am I getting old and crotchety yet? Maybe so...

[Mr. Jeeves]

But, now days a girl can be thrown in jail for kicking a fella in his junk.

Not in a blue state. ;)

[TalonDJ]

My counter point is #805. What do you think?

[mbennett203]

"Sometimes, I think the "let's be friends" line is like a last test."

Note to the ladies: maybe this is just me talking, but that's totally lame. Please don't do that.

Just a suggestion.

[cyborg]

Thanks :-) Big meaning taller or fat, as in anyone bigger than Paris Hilton fat and worst of all if you are a combo of both.

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LOL

[Campion]

If she has already shot you down most men that consider themselves gentlemen will back off and respect her opinion ... And I am not sure I want a woman that makes me jump through hoops.

Well, there's a time to back off, and there's a time to jump through hoops ... :-)

[cyborg]

Is she thin? Are you older? My sister spent a year in Japan and that's what a lot of American guys were sayin as their reasons why they like Asian girls, thin and appear smaller standing next to them.

[mbennett203]

"If she has already shot you down most men that consider themselves gentlemen will back off and respect her opinion"

Again, you've nailed it for me as well. Ladies, if the idea is out that "just friends" is some sort of pesistence test, the next time you say it and really mean it, you're going to get harrassed like mad because he'll assume you're just playing hard to get. It's friggin retarded, IMHO.

[TalonDJ]

Perhaps so. But I take great care to NOT fall head over heels for someone. I want some objectivity on the whole thing so I don't end up infatuated by the time I realize what a mistake I have made. So she says 'no' as a test then I am not going to over ride that because I have not driving reason to. I don't 'want her enough' to over ride that because I have taken care NOT to. I have thought this out because I have been in this situation.

[Campion]

if the idea is out that "just friends" is some sort of pesistence test

Usually, it's not. But sometimes ...

[Mr. Jeeves]

I don't know...Paris Hilton has a pretty fat head. ;)

[cyborg]

hehehehe yes she does :D

[TalonDJ]

I agree completely. I had enough emotional game playing with the last one. Never again. I would rather be single forever. If she is running because she wants to be chased then she better staple a 'chase me' sign to her back be cause I will be #@&* if I am going to chase just to find out if she will slap a restraining order on me or not.

[mbennett203]

How tall are you then?

Paris Hilton is ugly (Trey Parker/Matt Stone spent the last southpark ripping her and sluttiness in our culture in general, it was hilarious), I don't get the guys that want her.

Those stick-figure girls look like they'd break if a strong gust went by. That's not sexy.

[najida]

Great to meet another critter woman.

And yeah, I just tried getting my oscar to eat shrimp---he spit it out, but scarfed down the pellets.

Silly fish.