I agree completly.
I try hard not to do the madness, but some of the nastiest family fights I've ever seen usually happen at either Thanksgiving or Christmas.
I'm trying to keep it very low-key this year. Just not doing a lot of the stuff i might otherwise because we can't handle the stress right now.
I try to stay cheerful during the holidays. My daughter just married, so she will be otherwise occupied, my parents are dead, and my wife is overseas, so I ....I...
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WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!
Just smile at everyone and indicate you have a sore throat and it hurts to talk.