Posted on 11/05/2004 11:52:42 AM PST by iheartusa
There is an unspoken taboo in our society where if you admit that having kids wasn't quite what you thought it would be and that if you could do it all over again that you would have chosen NOT to have kids, that you are a monster, an evil, despicable monster. The truth is a large percentage of parents HATE being parents. They will never say it out loud and they can't even admit that to themselves because "only an evil demon" would come to that conclusion, they think. However, underneath it all, underneath all the B.S. is the truth that we all know: Children are overrated. For every precious moment where the little brat does something special, there are 1,000 moments where they drive you crazy. They literally tear your life upside down. Marriage, sex life, your wives appearance, your social life, the list goes on and on and on. Oh yeah, the worst part is yet to come - the teenage years. I could write volumes on this subject. The reason people have children is because of this unwritten societal norm where the standard is to get married and immediately begin to produce offspring because "that's the thing to do". Here's another fact for you if you're interested in the subject: the highest points of martial satisfaction are: 1) after the kids leave and 2) before the kids were born. Look it up, it's true.
I decided not to have kids or a wife... And haven't regretted it one bit!!! I look at all my sorry faced friends straining to make ends meet, having the endless honey do lists, soccer games, Dr bills, bitching, whinny little brats, debt up their asses!!.....and me....well I focused on work and saving money and have no debt, date all different kinds of women, no strings attached, buying a brand new custom house that my friends and family can only dream about, and will be able to retire at 45..... Yea, I may grow up old and have no one but look....most of you will be divorced and so broke after raising kids, alimony, child support, kids college...that you will have nothing to show for it when you are 65 and still have to work till your are dead......sorry thats reality. My relatives have given up asking. They know better. Then someone always pulls me aside and says, "I would love to have your life".
I think most people end up having kids because 1) They're too stupid to know how to use birth control properly and/or 2) They have an idealistic, completely unrealistic vision of what parenthood entails. People imagine dressing their daughter in pretty clothes, or playing catch with their son. They don't think about being awoken at 2 a.m. by a sick, screaming kid who just threw up all over the bed, and who doesn't give a shit that you have to get up for work in four hours. They don't think about the mortgage company threatening to foreclose, or the electricity being shut off, because the husband can't pay all the bills on one income. More people should think about these things, and fewer people should be having children. Parenthood should be left to those few couples who are willing to take the good with the bad.
NoMarriage.com manual will help you determine if you are ready and want to have children in the near future.
I walked into by home after work yesterday, and was treated like a hero by two small children. The author walked into his house after work yesterday.
One word summary:
Selfish.
Natural selection at work. This guy has guaranteed his idiot genes will not be passed along in the gene pool.
Agreed!
Why is this guy an asshole? For telling the truth? I'm glad he didn't have kids and I wish many other people I see didn't have them either. There are so many bad parents that turn out terrible kids. It is taboo to say it, but it's true. I can't stand when Free Republic attacks that messenger.
I loved raising my children to adulthood and watching them turn into parents raising children. Was it hard, you bet you, would I do it different, yes I would have home schooled them. I created and then raised four conservative, employed, married, law abiding, hard working, kind, generous, G-d fearing people. How can I regret something that turned out like that? They are my best work to date and now I get to influence how my Grandchildren are raised. Hint: Not Public School. Life is good.
The term, "arrested development" comes to mind immediately. It's inevitable that there will always be some spoiled, selfish little brats who never quite make it past adolescence.
When my daughter(s) said for the first time in their young life "Daddy" or "I love you" there wasn't enough hate in Hell to break the love I felt.
Good luck against the Spartans tomorrow!
"I decided not to have kids or a wife... And haven't regretted it one bit!"
Pity his parents didn't think the same way.........
I do not have children and I am the most unselfish person in the entire world. Just saying someone is selfish is a cop out. I chose not to have children for a number of reasons and I do not regret that decision. You think that makes me Selfish? That's insane.
I think every liberal should get a copy of this guy's manual and should take it to heart. Conservatives, OTOH, should continue to enjoy their children...
I never had kids.
The guy's profile on his website states that he's 32 and would only marry a woman from South America or somewhere else in the Third World because American women are selfish harpies. He should meet my stepmother-in-law who's from the Philippines and makes the average materialistic Cosmo reader look like Mother Teresa.
I wonder what distant niece or nephew will someday get to tell the doctors to pull the plug because Uncle Bitter signed a "DNR"? I personally know a lot more people who have made or are willing to make unbelieveable sacrifices to have and raise kids.
Wow. What a bitter individual. I consider my children to be the best thing that has EVER happened in my life. It is so much fun watching them unfold as a person and I really like them. What a blessing.
It took me and my wife living through the horror of 9/11 to decide that we really did, in our heart of hearts, want to have a family to raise and cherish. Before that, our perspectives we're quite different. There was no intent to have children. We both had fast-paced careers, enjoyed ourselves together alot, took elaborate vacations and yada-yada-yada.
Three years later, my two year old son has deficated on me, puked in my hair, wiped his boogers in my mouth and you know what? I wouldn't have it any other way! He's the love of my life, the best thing to happen to me since meeting my wife 26 years ago and he's the source of my strength, faith and love for my family.
I think this fellow is doing himself a disservice by not deciding not to grow as a person in mind and spirit by raising a family.
IMHO, there's no replacement for the nuclear family.
If I ever want an over-emotional half-wit to run my life, I'll get married again.
I'm so much happier single: no longer on antidepressants, drinking less, sick less often, eyes are brighter and my coat is shinier.
I have no desire to be an 'equal, sharing partner' again. It sucks.
Children are God's gift to the world, and to adults with a whit of humanity.
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