Kids are Overrated

No Marriage.com ^ | 11/05/04 | Embittered Young Guy

[Fudd]

I walked into by home after work yesterday, and was treated like a hero by two small children. The author walked into his house after work yesterday.

[OriginalChristian]

One word summary:
Selfish.

[capitan_refugio]

Natural selection at work. This guy has guaranteed his idiot genes will not be passed along in the gene pool.

[Polyxene]

Agreed!

[Hildy]

Why is this guy an asshole? For telling the truth? I'm glad he didn't have kids and I wish many other people I see didn't have them either. There are so many bad parents that turn out terrible kids. It is taboo to say it, but it's true. I can't stand when Free Republic attacks that messenger.

[MontanaBeth]

I loved raising my children to adulthood and watching them turn into parents raising children. Was it hard, you bet you, would I do it different, yes I would have home schooled them. I created and then raised four conservative, employed, married, law abiding, hard working, kind, generous, G-d fearing people. How can I regret something that turned out like that? They are my best work to date and now I get to influence how my Grandchildren are raised. Hint: Not Public School. Life is good.

[newgeezer]

I wonder how many people feel this way?

The term, "arrested development" comes to mind immediately. It's inevitable that there will always be some spoiled, selfish little brats who never quite make it past adolescence.

[frog_jerk_2004]

When my daughter(s) said for the first time in their young life "Daddy" or "I love you" there wasn't enough hate in Hell to break the love I felt.

[Rummyfan]

Good luck against the Spartans tomorrow!

[MikeGranby]

"I decided not to have kids or a wife... And haven't regretted it one bit!"

Pity his parents didn't think the same way.........

[Hildy]

I do not have children and I am the most unselfish person in the entire world. Just saying someone is selfish is a cop out. I chose not to have children for a number of reasons and I do not regret that decision. You think that makes me Selfish? That's insane.

[goldfinch]

I think every liberal should get a copy of this guy's manual and should take it to heart. Conservatives, OTOH, should continue to enjoy their children...

[RadioAstronomer]

I never had kids.

[Argus]

The guy's profile on his website states that he's 32 and would only marry a woman from South America or somewhere else in the Third World because American women are selfish harpies. He should meet my stepmother-in-law who's from the Philippines and makes the average materialistic Cosmo reader look like Mother Teresa.

[silverleaf]

I wonder what distant niece or nephew will someday get to tell the doctors to pull the plug because Uncle Bitter signed a "DNR"? I personally know a lot more people who have made or are willing to make unbelieveable sacrifices to have and raise kids.

[applpie]

Wow. What a bitter individual. I consider my children to be the best thing that has EVER happened in my life. It is so much fun watching them unfold as a person and I really like them. What a blessing.

[paulcissa]

I would submit this fellow as someone looking for validation of his personal decisions.

It took me and my wife living through the horror of 9/11 to decide that we really did, in our heart of hearts, want to have a family to raise and cherish. Before that, our perspectives we're quite different. There was no intent to have children. We both had fast-paced careers, enjoyed ourselves together alot, took elaborate vacations and yada-yada-yada.

Three years later, my two year old son has deficated on me, puked in my hair, wiped his boogers in my mouth and you know what? I wouldn't have it any other way! He's the love of my life, the best thing to happen to me since meeting my wife 26 years ago and he's the source of my strength, faith and love for my family.

I think this fellow is doing himself a disservice by not deciding not to grow as a person in mind and spirit by raising a family.

IMHO, there's no replacement for the nuclear family.

[Cogadh na Sith]

When I look at the amount of crap the even the 'happily married' guys I know have to put up with, I've decided I can't do it again.

If I ever want an over-emotional half-wit to run my life, I'll get married again.

I'm so much happier single: no longer on antidepressants, drinking less, sick less often, eyes are brighter and my coat is shinier.

I have no desire to be an 'equal, sharing partner' again. It sucks.

[Cboldt]

By this man's utterance, we have evidence that selfishness has no boundaries.

Children are God's gift to the world, and to adults with a whit of humanity.

[JoeV1]

This is an honest assessment of his feelings and I applaud him/her for that. I myself have a few friends whom I have known for many many years and in talking to them have asked them this very question albeit in a slightly different way. My question was not would you have children if you had it to do over again but rather would you get married again if you had it to do over again.. There is no majority that said they wouldn't but the % was pretty near half. Of course no marriage means no children (usually)

How can any of you say there is something wrong with someone who realizes he would rather not be a father or a husband/wife?