Posted on 06/13/2004 10:24:43 PM PDT by goldstategop
She'd probably call you "Bill" and kick you in the crotch.
Re: Dr Laura's book...
I bought the book for my soon-to-be ex, it was one of the direct causes for the split-up. She found it, threw it away and then claimed I had accused her of stealing when I asked what had happened to it. She was a big fan of Dr. L until her advice cut against her. In my case, her own version of "God" caused a lot of the problems.
"Children Are Overrated" - too bad the a**clowns parents didn't buy that.
"You don't have to be religious to take marriage seriously and there is no evidence that Non-religious people are any more prone to divorce than religious people. "
He wasn't comparing religious with non-religios, but those with 'genuine faith' with 'secular or casually religious'.
Your numbers don't differentiate between those who are serious and those who are casual in the religios beliefs.
"Its so hard for us perfect men to find just the right lady./sarcasm off."
A friend once told me that all his life he was looking for the perfect woman. Unfortunately for him, when he finally found her it turned out she was looking for the perfect man. :(
>>In any case, more important than friends are FAMILY opinions...family are reasonably, naturally concerned about your well-being and more truly know you than your friends
I'd say that is mostly true, at least in my family. But my parents have been married for 40 years and my brothers and I have had an extremely stable family setting. The same is not true about many of my friends, who either have family discord with siblings or parents, or have two sets of parents (mom and step dad, dad and step mom).
I'd trust my family before my friends, but I have always considered family more important than friends.
Good point re: female friends. Having a male-dominated career and male-dominated hobbies, almost all of my friends are men. I can't stand the cute little games that women play... plus every woman my age that I've met has the social IQ of a peanut.
One of my (VERY hot) roommates got upset because a guy she'd met only 2 days ago offered her an all-expenses-paid trip to New York City. She actually took him up on the offer, and when she got back, she was complaining that he pressured her to have sex all during the trip. Needless to say, I'm not running to her, or any other woman, for relationship advice.
mark
Oh I think there are plenty of women out there reading it and following the advice. And even though my marriage ended in a nasty bitter divorce I have used the suggestions in her book to finally let my ex husband where I failed in our relationship...It has made a huge difference in how we now communicate with each other and has certainly opened my eyes to what I need to do if I should ever be blessed enough to marry again
Very sensible.
Find the wife before you make millions. You won't attract the wrong type of extremely attractive woman at that point.
#6 could have saved me two years of acting stupid, wasting money, ond pickling my liver. Now I just act stupid.
also add the Jewish saying:
"A worthy man has a wife who will stand against him for the right reason, an unworthy man has a wife who will stand with him for the wrong reasons"
Except they said it in Hebrew.
I'm sure that's part of it, However if you notice there is a listing (4th down from the top)for people who just call themselves "Christian", It doesn't mean "Other Christian" because even though many smaller Christian groups are missing from the divorce statistics that are in the rest of the survey (There was probably too few of them surveyed to accurately explotate divorce statistics for the whole country)so when they say "Christian" they mean someone who is a Christian but doesn't follow any branch, In other words a CINO and their divorce rate is 9% right around everybody else's
It also doesn't make sense because if "Real" Christians have such a low divorce rate that would mean in order to come out about the same as the Nonreligious the "Causal" Christians would have to have divorce rates around 30-40%. So by that logic it's best to marry either a fundamentalist or an Atheist but not someone in-between.
The divorce rate is right around 10% for all groups with slight variation, There may be cultural, societal, financial, regional and even generational differences but it obvious from these results that religion has very little to do with the staying power of a marriage.
As for irreligious men, I see no purpose in marrying whatsoever why put oneself at serious risk for a sacrament in which one does not believe?
What a stupid thing to say by the author in an otherwise good article. So if the author woke up tomorrow and thought there was no God would he just pack up and leave his wife? Yeah sounds like true love there!
Just because the author needs "The Fear of God" to keep him loving and not leaving his wife doesn't mean other people do, It's pretty sad this author who seems intelligent can't fathom people getting married and staying together because they actually love each other and want to spend the rest of the lives together.
many thanks ...
And God is great - glad to hear he brought you Her. I know the feeling .... very, very weird, in a holy kind of way.
Ok I'll say it. Women are a pain in the ass. But I love them. Don't want to marry one but I'd sure like to stay close enough to love them and watch my ASSets at the same time.
I am not bashing women.... well sorta kinda, yeah, they are a pain in the Achiles, I'll say it again.
My love to the Senoritas
Gotta go now, good soccer game on. No time for you. Got slobs coming over for the game and we will eat Pizza, drink beer and answer to no one of the rest of the day.
For me, after the game I'll go to the Pub and mingle.
Later
bttt
Nowadays, just ADMITTING a thought like that would get you locked up in a psych ward with lie detectors attached to your private parts.
This time, I married a woman who had been my friend for 20 years. This is working out well. Nothing is perfect, but we deal with problems and are doing fine.
I figure third time is a charm, or three strikes I'm out.
More seriously, had I listened to what my mom told me when I was much younger, I would have only have married once--20 years earlier.
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