I understand what you are saying about war. It is brutality on an industrial scale for all concerned.
But what President Bush is saying (if I understand him correctly) is that we can't win this conflict by sheer force and firepower. We have to win hearts & minds, and we do that by giving them liberty and democracy.
My father accuses Bush of sloppy thinking ("the world as it should be, rather than the world as it is"). But I think my father too cynical and leftist. And I am backing the President 100%