[Skywalk]

That's what some of the people on this thread don't understand. The people who walk out, cheat or what have you don't always give you the benefit of "warning signs," especially women. I would say that men are the most transparent of individuals. If they are a jerk before you marry them, but you "overlook" those qualities, then you will likely be unhappily married to a jerk 10 years down the road.

But marry a woman that you think is wonderful and she will confirm your opinion each day, until whenever it is she "wakes up" and feels differently or needs to find herself or whatever other thing that pops out of nowhere.

In any event, the fact is, no matter the religion, ethnicity, age or seeming temperament of the person you are involved with, there are NO GUARANTEES.

The sad thing about that is I know how loyal and committed I can be. Therefore I know that I won't just up and leave, so that really does leave the "blame" on one person if it happens.

[FreedomAvatar]

Yes. There's a certain amount of "it can't happen to me" around here. I was like that, too. And I fought hard for my marriage - tried to save it. All in vain...

Like I said, people change. I can accept that. But what I will never abide is a court system that denies loving fathers access to their children and turns them into wage slaves. And many men are realizing that these horror stories are not isolated incidents.

It comes down to this: does the benefit of marriage outweigh the risk?

[Hodar]

That's what some of the people on this thread don't understand. The people who walk out, cheat or what have you don't always give you the benefit of "warning signs," especially women. I would say that men are the most transparent of individuals. If they are a jerk before you marry them, but you "overlook" those qualities, then you will likely be unhappily married to a jerk 10 years down the road.

Reminds me of a theory people in my circles called

"The Willardson Theory of "Why Hot Babes Date Jerks"

The Willardson collary holds that being a jerk is a genetic trait, skipping every other generation. Consider a jerk you know, chances are the parents of the jerk are normal, likewise the offspring. So, either consciously or unconsciously no hot babe wants their kids to be jerks; so the only way she can be certain to prevent this is to date only jerks