[Lazamataz]

An unfortunate situation all around. I wonder whether the 9/11 payouts had anything to do with making a widow with 4 children more appealing than one's original wife and 4 children.

Comeon. Men aren't that mercenary.

(so, taxchick, tell me again how much you are worth...?)

[Tax-chick]

Men aren't that mercenary.

I expect that's generally true. But you would expect that if a man was going to leave his wife and a large family, he'd be put off by the cost from choosing another woman with a bunch of kids. I'm sure that's one reason I don't have too many men chasing me, in spite of all my appealing qualities :-).

I can't help thinking that the deceased's life insurance and the other funds given out made some of these affairs financially workable.

[Squantos]

When ya have to go to your husbands boss to save your marriage it's too wayyyyyy too late....regardless of what led to or contributed to the decision to separate. This "abandoned" wife is just being a bitter bug by working and testing the sympathy votes in the public for now. All she's trying to do is get some payback out of the divorce from ex husband, his new squeeze and her piggy bank stuffed full of 9-11 compensation cash and the City of NY and it's Fire Departments budget.

Just my opinion from the cheap seats................. Stay Safe !

[petitfour]

Comeon. Men aren't that mercenary.

I wouldn't be surprised if a man did make such a calculation. However, I think men are more stupid than mercenary. How tragic for the jilted spouses. How tragic for their children. btw, women are more likely to be the calculating ones. in my opinion. this all comes down to grief on the part of all of these players and how their needs were being met.