You're right. Ultimately, it's the only thing we are "judged" by -- in any case, our behavior, making each our individual ways through life's temptations, determines our destiny for the most part and what government thinks/judges of that moral behavior is an afterthought.
One FReeper (not me) stated it pretty well sometime back in a post somewhere -- that the worst is when "social conservative" means confusing sin with crime, using government to punish (as opposed to liberals using government to nourish) sin. The truth is that government, at least Federal government has zero role in it at all. Conservative Christians should know that and respect it!
There is nothing wrong with government as a tool for curbing gross misbehavior. I would expect as much at every level: parental, local, state, and federal. But . . . it is a mess when large segments of the general population are ignorant and mendacious. For example, those in authority who fail to discipline thug-boys who run around with their pants half down siring children of multiple mothers are as much pox on society as are the fruits of their laziness.