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Wait till he finds out how miserable she made him these past few years and how glad he is she is gone. His pity party will turn to rage. That's one of the reasons he needs to be getting profesional counseling. The rage is likely to turn to depression later.

OPH and VRWC, I have to agree with your sentiments. NH, the comments are not meant to hurt you, but to help you realize YOU make YOUR choices in life. My husband left me for the love of his life. He's divorced again and working on marriage #4, you reap what you sow. We all would like to think marriage is forever, but anyone at any time can get a divorce and there is nothing you can do about it. At the time, my kids were 8, 7 and 4, and I was doing the poor me game. That lasted about one week. Then I realized, I have control of MY life and no one is going to dictate how I should feel. I chose not to play the poor scorned woman, get on welfare and join the liberal slobs. Only you can make you happy. I only have one life, and I'm going to make the most of it. Get yourself busy. Join a club, get active with church, do something you always wanted to do, take your kids to Yellowstone, something! Don't sit around and mope. For me, I went to college. It wasn't easy, but nothing worthwhile is ever easy. I'm so glad I didn't play the pity party too long, because soon enough, my ex showed his true colors, while I became more confident, more successful, more at peace with myself and God, and a better mom.