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Celebrating single moms sends a bad message to the little girls who imitate stars.

ok ok...i love how people rely on hollywood to raise their children. and now they are insulting single mothers who work themselves to death supporting their children. i don't think the matter here is the idea of a single mother, i think it's how much the parent is putting forth in making sure their children is loved and respected growing up. sometimes there can be two really crappy parents and sometimes one great heroic one.

now they are insulting single mothers who work themselves to death supporting their children. i don't think the matter here is the idea of a single mother

I don't think the intention was to insult mothers who BECOME single through widowhood or divorce, or even the ones who accidentally become pregnant and choose to keep their babies rather than abort them. I think it's more to point out the women who make a conscious choice to become a single mother, either through adoption or artificial insemination, etc. These women don't WANT a father for their children - hence, the reference to a male as "just a sperm donor".

i don't think the matter here is the idea of a single mother, i think it's how much the parent is putting forth in making sure their children is loved and respected growing up.

Sorry, Mom will never be Dad, no matter how much she loves or respects her child. There is a REASON why it takes two different sexes to produce children.

And it isn't only an example of what men do or what women do which is provided. Children learn about themselves by interacting with their parents. A mother's reaction to flirtatious behavior in a young girl is going to be very different from a father's reaction. Men tend to be better at reining in young male behavior. And the interplay between the mother and father is tremendously important. Children learn how to communicate, they learn compromise.

My aunt lost her husband in an accident when her older daughter was about 4, and her younger daughter was a few months from birth. They lived just around the corner from us and so had male figure in the form of my dad. Neither of these women can sustain ANY type of long term relationship with a man. Their expectations are insane! The older daughter was married for a time (the only man she has ever dated) and nearly pecked her poor husband to death! She wanted to make every decision just like she saw her mama do. The poor guy was not allowed to have an opinion. He got a little tipsy at the wedding reception, and she insisted that he humiliated her and demanded he apologize to us all. We WERE embarassed...for him.