Second point: Your stats on current US Mass attendance are about 10 years out of date. The latest figures are more on the order of 20-30%, if my memory serves me well. So by that measure, your parish is one of the better ones. You should thank God for that. Many Americans belong to a parish without a priest assigned to it.
I still would be mighty obliged if you would answer the following question: how many vocations has your parish produced in the last 30 years? The parish where I grew up, which is has about 30,000 members and is thoroughly laden with the "spirit of vatican 2", produced exactly 1 vocation since 1970.
I've only been in this parish for ten years. In that period, three men from our parish have been ordained along with four permanent deacons.