There is a distinction, my friend. I wrote servant/leader precisely because all leaders in the church "are" servants. Not all servants are leaders within the church structure, though. I am NOT a leader of my elders. They are most certainly leaders over me. :) God bless. My suspicions are that you and I basically agree, but that you attend a church with female leadership, and are unwilling to say that it's wrong. Am I very far off base? Oh, well......even if my suspicions are correct, I doubt that you would admit them.
I haven't attended a church with female leadership for over 6 years. There were serious problems with the churches that had female leadership. At the time I attributed the problems to the particular females and their need to either 1) press the feminist issue and redefine G-d in the process or 2) pretend they weren't leaders while leading. I have no patience with either one.
Not all servants are leaders? I'll have to think about that one. But in today's church, most leaders aren't servants - or they certainly aren't pastors. They're just administrative heads. IMO: A woman can do that as well as, if not better than, a man.
Did you read the post I wrote about the woman who lead the worship from behind the scenes? That was a church that would not allow woman "leaders." She was still a leader though and had the most humble heart. Admitting out loud that she was a leader would have done that church a world of good, IMO.
Shalom.