I haven't attended a church with female leadership for over 6 years. There were serious problems with the churches that had female leadership. At the time I attributed the problems to the particular females and their need to either 1) press the feminist issue and redefine G-d in the process or 2) pretend they weren't leaders while leading. I have no patience with either one.
Not all servants are leaders? I'll have to think about that one. But in today's church, most leaders aren't servants - or they certainly aren't pastors. They're just administrative heads. IMO: A woman can do that as well as, if not better than, a man.
Did you read the post I wrote about the woman who lead the worship from behind the scenes? That was a church that would not allow woman "leaders." She was still a leader though and had the most humble heart. Admitting out loud that she was a leader would have done that church a world of good, IMO.
Shalom.
I think the answer to that is to find men who are willing to assume their role as spiritual leaders, not give up and turn to women leaders. I know what you're talking about, though. The elders who are more at ease with a financial statement than a statement of faith. :) We visited some of those churches.
God bless, and gotta' run.