What kind of God wants people to love him just because he loved them.
If I demanded a woman love me because I loved her and declared she was going to punished if she did act like she loved me I would be labeled as insane, probably criminally insane.
Yikes!
If a woman professed to love you (e.g. in the bond of marriage), and you let her enter into your home ("kingdom"), if she betrayed that love, you might not let her stay there until she showed more proof of her testament of love (in our realm, many couple seek a divorce for this reason, God, like your parents perhaps, continues to love you even when you do things that don't please Him).