It's a hard thing to be so far away from your community... I don't care about the coffee and donut thing (I never go to that anyway) but it is nice to be able to show your kids that others that they know live their lives as Catholics. When we go to the Tridentine (which I love and my kids are getting more and more out of especially since my daughter is taking Latin this year) we don't know anyone and we live too far away to really be a part of that parish.
My kids are not yet old enough for formal instruction, but I would hope to be their main source for doctrinal education in any event. There is a large Catholic homeschooling association in my county.
I am also in a special parochial situation: my pastor celebrates both the Tridentine and NO Masses on Sundays, Holy Days and many other days besides and offers all the traditional devotions along with a very old-fashioned CCD. He also christens, weds and buries his parishioners in the Tridentine Rite if asked.
My parish is also a one-to-two minute drive from my home.
In short, I am one of the most fortunate Catholics in the United States.