Anyway, my heart goes out to you. I think most Catholics can understand the struggle all too well.
I know what you mean about your husband and the Latin... unless you are familiar with it (part of your culture like it is/was part of the universal Catholic culture), people seem to think that the Church is trying to pull a fast one and confuse you with a "foreign" language. At least that's how my agnostic/Lutheran husband reacted. He also thought that it was "elite"!!! I thought that was pretty funny since most of the Catholics here are descended from Irish fishermen or farmers or who were starving to death at one time!
In fact, when I was a kid my family travelled in out of the way places all over Central America and the Caribbean. We'd often find ourselves at Christmas or Easter on a Spanish or French island or in Mexico without an Anglican church - so we would go to a Catholic church for Mass. My father (who is a Born Salesman and speaks fluent Italian) would pay a call on the parish priest earlier in the week, explain our predicament, and ask for emergency communication (since as High Churchers we believe in the Real Presence). I don't think we were ever refused.
ANyhow, the point of all this is that I still have somewhere my old Latin missal - and it actually is BETTER than the vernacular service, because whether we were in Mexico, or on a French, Dutch or Spanish island, the service was always the same!