"I divorced an unfaithful husband who was also beating me. Are you saying God expected me to stay married to him and just forgive him? Am I understanding what you mean?" If it was life threatening, separating from him was probably a wise move while you continue to prat for him. However, nowhere does the Lord approve or bless a "re-marriage" unless it is to your proper spouse or, if they have died, to an eligible Christian.
"i had a simular situation here to ladyinred, im curious that you only see it as the fault of the one cheated on, when infact many the adultrous spouses leave for the mistress/lover, not because one is unwilling to forgive"
Trust me, I have examined re-marriage in my own situation from every angle. I was the innocent one. Nevertheless, when it comes time for me to stand before the Lord, I want to be found blameless and to hear Him say "Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord."
To put it bluntly, there's no woman I've ever had that's worth going to hell for.
Id like you to show me, where in the bible it states remarriage is a sin, provided the first marriage ended due to adultry.
Im still in shock that familys in your church have divorced because of an interpretation of scripture, God calls you where you were at, i could understand this had the Lord specifically said do not remarry, but i do not see this or anything resembling such a statement.
Im not sure where the verse is this early in the am, but it does say that it is better to marry than to burn with lust.
I do not think divorce is the solution to a remarriage. God can bless any situation, including a second marriage if you commit it into the Lords hands. To say that he cant, is to say God is limited.
I know in my heart of hearts that God chose my husband for me (#2) the odds of picking antoher abusive partner were stacked against me. I was not looking to get involved and our story is one miracle after another (including the birth of our son, which we were told was an impossibility), he has blessed us beyond anything we could imagine. With God all things are possible!