My standards? Try Jesus' standards. Your problem is the same as Eve's. She didn't fear God either.
Why would you purposely go against the Lord's command? Because it feels good? I guess if your "happiness" is all that matters to God ... but, don't be deceived. God is not mocked. What you have sown you will also reap. Obedience or, Disobedience. There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
* technicality here. Was your first marriage union a right marriage (i.e. was it the first marriage for both parties)? If not, then if it was your first, but not his, then in God's eyes you were in adultery(a civil union but not a godly union). Thus if you were divorced from the first union and remarried to someone who had not been married before, then , the marriage you are in now is a right marriage.